Stage 12: observability & performance (OTel/OTLP, domain metrics, guest GC)

- pkg/telemetry: shared OTel provider bootstrap (none/stdout/otlp + W3C
  propagators + Go runtime metrics); backend/internal/telemetry becomes a thin
  facade keeping its gin middleware.
- Telemetry parity: gateway and the Telegram connector gain telemetry runtimes
  and config (GATEWAY_/TELEGRAM_ SERVICE_NAME + OTEL_*); otelgrpc instruments the
  backend push server, the gateway's backend+connector clients and the connector
  server. Default exporter stays none (collector/dashboards are Stage 14).
- Operational metrics (variant attribute on game-scoped ones): game_replay_duration,
  game_move_validate_duration, games_started_total, games_abandoned_total,
  game_cache_active, chat_messages_total{kind}, gateway edge_request_duration.
  Wired via the SetMetrics setter pattern (default no-op meter).
- TODO-3: account.GuestReaper deletes guests with no game seat past
  BACKEND_GUEST_RETENTION (default 30d, swept every BACKEND_GUEST_REAP_INTERVAL).
- Tests: pkg/telemetry exporter selection; game/social/edge metric recording via
  a manual reader; config (otlp accepted, guest knobs); inttest guest reaper.
- Docs: PLAN.md re-scopes Stage 12 and adds Stage 13 (alphabet-on-wire) + Stage 14
  (CI/deploy) with the agreed dictionary-versioning resolution; ARCHITECTURE 11/13,
  TESTING, the three READMEs and FUNCTIONAL(+ru) updated.

backend/go.mod

@@ -101,6 +101,7 @@ require (
 	github.com/yusufpapurcu/wmi v1.2.4 // indirect
 	go.mongodb.org/mongo-driver/v2 v2.5.0 // indirect
 	go.opentelemetry.io/auto/sdk v1.2.1 // indirect
+	go.opentelemetry.io/contrib/instrumentation/google.golang.org/grpc/otelgrpc v0.68.0
 	go.opentelemetry.io/contrib/instrumentation/net/http/otelhttp v0.68.0 // indirect
 	go.uber.org/multierr v1.11.0 // indirect
 	golang.org/x/arch v0.22.0 // indirect